Deal?

As the number of full moons that I’ll have the pleasure to see while holding your hand is limited;

as the number of fights that we have ahead might just be a bit more than the number of full moons;

as the times my index will “poup” the tip of your nose -and the fun, entertaining times in between- are falling into the countdown of an imminent end like a cracked hourglass…

I propose you to enjoy this ride with the safe,

temporary and total adrenaline that a roller coaster offers:

Imagine, just for a moment,

that I am your person

and not only a bridge;

Let me imagine that I’ll have the pleasure 

to keep exploring how it feels

when Love and Life meet.

Closure

I fall into the loop of the same triggers.

And I see only a void waiting to suck me in.

It’s hard, in the middle of the onirical mist, to get a sense of what is simply a very vivid mental hell and what is a real foot that moves innocently, but drastically, into nothing, as a limb does when the body is entering the state of torpor.

There's no possible masking in any case: The nervous system will get immediately triggered by what modeled it in the first place, and it will do it the same way for a nightmare, the imagination of a possible catastrophic scenario, a painful wait for uncertain bad news, or the maddening moment in which you stopped everything inside and around, and broke every possible healing or closure, when you decided to leave this Realm, 18 years ago, through the back door.

Atomically speaking

Each of our atoms, organized together to allow literally everything in the universe to exist (and allow us to breathe and pulse), is a protonic/neutronic nucleus that manages such a powerful electromagnetic force that electrons faithfully orbit around it, without ever separating.

If, at any point, this fundamental nature changed and the force of atoms stopped pulling (and pushing) its content in the perfect balance it does, we (we, The Universe) would fade away, passing through each other into an unimaginable nothing. 

What makes this immensely powerful force so fascinating (besides the fact that we are at the fragile mercy of its nature) is that at an atomic level, there is no touching: Every time we (The Universe and its content) crash into something else, the reality is that the condensation of atoms from each part squeeze together without overlapping (nor touching) to keep their natural state as intact as possible, and reject the other one for the sake of each's own nature.

So, at an atomic level, our sense of touch is nothing but our electromagnetic field rejecting the forces of others.

And yet, at an atomic, molecular, cellular, sensory level, is the rejection of your electromagnetic field the one I yearn for. 

On the tip of my fingers;

at the bottom of my heart;

and somewhere between my eyes and my ears,

where nothing and everything blend to build up my world.

At an atomic level, my neurons reject each other by connecting new paths to understand the beauty of this new, meaning·full experience. 

What happens inside these paths though (where even my dreams seem to realistically recall your no-touch, from your lips to my nose) is a complete mystery.

There, I no longer know if the laws of physics 

play any game 

or if this new way of being happy 

melds cosmic and sacred energies together 

into a whole

and bloom from them.

(Does it matter? 

Definitely not)

While this finite timeframe allows us not to touch bodymindheart, I'll surrender to this infinite sweet, unforgettably en·joy·able rejection.

...And a new door in my heart will have your name on it.

The letter I never sent

Dear you (or dearest, or beloved you):

It is time for this letter to reach your hands, your eyes, or any sense that allows you to absorb as much as I try to convey in this letter.

Much has happened since I last heard from you. Whether it was two months ago or twenty years ago in Earth time, the different paths that are travelled in each act, step and error, can turn just one day into an entire eternity.

I write this letter to you with a unique and universal intention.

What I never said (and/or what I never let you say) became dozens (sometimes hundreds) of paths called "what if...?". Not only because of the possible (probably more conciliatory) way out that these paths would have offered; but also because in many of them you would still be here, in my life, perhaps by my side... or perhaps I would still be on your radar.

However, as I write this letter I also think about whether those "what ifs" would have also meant that who I am now, would not exist in the form that I have (you know, a different crystal in the kaleidoscope and a small turn of a couple of degrees fundamentally changes the large scale). And maybe it is thanks to you - and/or maybe it is thanks to your absence - that I am now who I am... maybe removing you (without saying or letting you say) was key so that in this present, my kaleidoscope with its shapes and colours as they are today, finds me at a point I never dreamed of being.

What would happen if, in this set of crystals, I met you again? What would happen if, in this set of crystals, I met you for the first time? Would I have understood from the beginning that you had to leave my life as soon as possible? Would you have understood it? Would you have perhaps made that decision much earlier than me?

Does it matter?

Probably not.

And yet here I am, tracing paths of what could -or could not- have been if our paths had not separated the way they did.

Every wound, every difference, every toxicity, every comment and even every blow, led me by reason or force to question my ways, my decisions and my reactions. More or less awake, I learned that the only way to survive is to question even the ground I walk on. And that was the road that brings me here and now, to this extremely complex and fractal specific moment, to write this letter to you.

Above all,

Thank you.

I would not have done it without you.

Dear you (or dearest, or beloved you), we may never meet face to face again. I may no longer exist on your radar and that's okay, I'm glad you've moved forward in the direction Life had for you (I'm even happier if this direction has brought you joy). You are still in mine, undoubtedly because something unresolved kept beating between my ears and my heart. That is why I've written this letter.

Perhaps,

as a kind of ritual or spell,

writing it will allow me to untie a thousand knots at once to continue on my journey.

I will then carry, without this knot of you, still something of you in me:

Your memory,

Your influence,

and perhaps even,

your pain (and mine).

All of the above, I guarantee you, 

transmuted into different forms of love.

Receive from me the most cordial greeting in the way you prefer.

And my deepest gratitude for having been part of my life.

S.

La carta que nunca envié.

Estimado o estimada (o queridísimo o queridísima, o amado o amada):

Es ya tiempo de que esta carta llegue a tus manos, o a tus ojos, o a cualquier sentido que te permita absorber tanto como intento transmitir en esta misiva. 

Mucho ha pasado desde la última vez que supe de ti. Tanto si fue hace 2 meses como hace 20 años en tiempo de la tierra, los distintos caminos que se recorren en cada acto, paso y error, son capaces de convertir sólo un día en una eternidad. 

Te escribo esta misiva con una intención única y universal. 

Lo que nunca dije (y/o lo que nunca te dejé decir) se convirtió en decenas (a veces cientos) de caminos llamados "y si...?". No sólo por la posible salida (probablemente más conciliatoria) que estos caminos hubiesen ofrecido, sino también porque en muchos de ellos tú seguirías aquí, en mi vida, tal vez a mi lado... o tal vez yo en tu radar.

Sin embargo, mientras escribo esta carta también pienso si esos "y si...?" hubiesen significado también que quien soy ahora, no exista en la forma que tengo (ya sabes, un cristal distinto en el caleidoscopio y un pequeño giro en un par de grados modifican la gran escala de manera fundamental). Y tal vez es gracias a ti -y/o tal vez sea gracias a tu ausencia- que soy ahora quien soy... tal vez removerte (sin decir ni dejar que dijeras) fue clave para que este presente, mi caleidoscopio con sus formas y colores como son hoy, me encuentre en un punto que jamás soñé estar.

¿Qué pasaría si en este set de cristales me re•encontrase contigo? ¿Qué pasaría si en este set de cristales me encontrase contigo por primera vez? ¿Hubiese comprendido desde el inicio que tenías que salir de mi vida cuanto antes? ¿Lo hubieses comprendido tú? ¿Hubieses tomado tal vez tú esa decisión mucho antes que yo?

¿Importa?

Probablemente no.

Y sin embargo aquí estoy, trazando caminos de lo que pudo -o no pudo- ser si nuestros caminos no se hubiesen separado de la forma en que lo hicieron.

Cada herida, cada diferencia, cada toxicidad, cada comentario e incluso cada golpe, me llevaron por la razón o la fuerza a cuestionar mis formas, mis decisiones y reacciones. Más o menos despierta, aprendí que la única forma de sobrevivir es cuestionando hasta el suelo que piso. Y fue esa la vía para que este complejísimo y fractálico momento, me encuentre aquí y ahora, escribiéndote esta carta.

Por encima de todo, 

Gracias. 

No lo hubiese hecho sin ti. 

Estimado o estimada (o queridísimo o queridísima, o amado o amada), posiblemente nunca nos volvamos a encontrar de frente. Posiblemente yo ya no exista en tu radar y está bien, me alegra que hayas avanzado en la dirección que la vida tuviera para ti (me alegra aún más si esta dirección te ha traído alegría). Tú sigues en el mío, sin duda porque algo sin resolver siguió latiendo entre los oídos y el corazón. Por eso esta carta.

Tal vez, 

a modo de rito o sortilegio, 

escribirla me permita soltar mil nudos a la vez para seguir mi camino.

Llevaré entonces, ya sin este nudo de ti, todavía algo de ti en mí: 

Tu recuerdo,

Tu influencia,

y quizás incluso

tu dolor (y el mío).

Todo lo anterior, te lo garantizo, 

transmutado en distintas formas de amor.

Recibe de mí el más cordial saludo de la forma en que lo prefieras.

Y mi más profundo agradecimiento por haber formado parte de mi vida.

S.